Pressure cook the cabbage and dal with a splash of water. 1 whistle, I would reckon. Allow the pressure to release on its own.
Heat oil in a pan, throw in the fennel seeds, dry red chilies and bay leaves, allow the spices to splutter.
Dissolve the ginger paste and 2.5 tsp of fennel powder in a little water to form a paste.
Add the fennel powder-ginger paste to the pan, cook for a minute or two.
Add the pressure cooked cabbage and dal, sprinkle in the salt and sugar, give it a hearty mix, saute for 4-5 minutes.
Pour in the milk, cook over a medium high flame, with occasional stirring, till the milk has almost completely evaporated.
Adjust seasonings, sprinkle the remaining fennel powder. Finish with a dollop of ghee. Serve hot.